Hi, I’m Brian Shillingburg.

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For most of my life, I lived in a cycle I could not break. From a young age, I learned to cope with pain through secrecy, using food, pornography, and eventually alcohol to escape what I did not know how to face.

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I believed in God. I wanted to change.
But underneath the surface, I was stuck.

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Over time, what started small did not stay small. The patterns grew, the stakes increased, and what I thought I could manage became something I could not control.

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Eventually, it caught up with me.

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At the time, I was a high school principal, speaking in front of thousands.

Twenty minutes later, I was being arrested for soliciting a prostitute.

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My mugshot and story were broadcast on the evening news across Houston, shared online, and known throughout my community.

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In a matter of moments, everything I had built—my reputation, my career, my identity—was exposed.

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There was nowhere left to run.

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That was the moment everything changed.
Not because I had a plan, but because I finally stopped trying to fix it on my own.

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That is where Christ met me—right in the middle of my brokenness.

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Not when I had it together.
Not when I had answers.
But at the lowest point of my life, when everything had been stripped away.

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That was the breaking point.
It was also the beginning.

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The Turning Point
 

For years, I had tried to manage my behavior.
What I needed was a complete transformation.

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Recovery began when I got honest—with myself, with others, and before God.

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Through counseling, recovery groups, and real accountability, I started doing the deeper work I had avoided for decades.

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I began to understand my story, recognize my patterns, and build a life rooted in truth instead of secrecy.

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God did not just pull me out of addiction.
He began restoring my life, my marriage, and my identity.

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In that process, something unexpected began to take shape: a calling.

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What I Do Now
 

Today, I walk with men who are living the same cycle I lived in for 30 years.

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Men who are tired of hiding, tired of trying to manage it on their own, and ready for something different—but do not know where to start.

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You do not have to lose everything for things to change.

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There is a better way to live.
You do not have to keep fighting this on your own.

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Experience and Training

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I am a certified Sexual Addiction Recovery Coach (PSAP Candidate I), with a master’s degree in education and more than 25 years of experience developing leaders, building teams, and mentoring men, including serving as a high school principal.

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My approach is shaped by both professional training and lived experience.

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I have walked through addiction, public exposure, and recovery myself. I understand the patterns, the resistance, and what it actually takes to build lasting change.

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Today, I work with men one-on-one and in small groups and partner with churches and leaders to create practical pathways toward healing, restoration, and freedom.